Finding the Sacredness in Tragedy – Part 8: A Time For Everything (8/8)

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We have been on a quest to find the sacredness in tragedy. A mighty tall order, wouldn’t you say?

In the previous seven posts, we looked at tragic events and took deep dive into the meaning of righteousness and sacredness. Today, we will explore trauma.

The Miracle of Birth

For those of you who have given birth, or witnessed this, it is nothing short of miraculous. The experience of birth is sacred.

Babies

Babies are incredible. They have the tiniest toes and fingers. With bodies that almost fit in the palm of a hand. And eyes that may or may not be open. Yet, in a few days, babies start to gaze into their parent’s eyes with all the love in the world. They are truly a gift from God.

Life-and-death circumstances might make us question God’s omnipotence (the power of God), or God’s goodness. In other words, God’s willingness to prevent terrible things from happening. Such as when a baby is miscarried. Or stillborn. Or born less than perfect.

Parents may wonder “Where was God?”

Or

“Why did this have to happen?” 

Surely, God doesn’t create imperfect beings. God can’t take my baby away. Can he? 

No Answers, Yet

We simply do not know. Maybe one day we will find out. But for now – for many of us – certainty is elusive.

Some of us may simply choose to trust that God is there. Some may be fortunate enough to feel God’s presence – even in the midst of suffering. While others may feel lost, or alone or even foresaken by God. During times of trial and tribulation we often experience a floodgate of emotions. We may feel that God is nowhere to be found. Yet, could it be that, even then, God is with us – even though we may not see it? Years later when we look back, we may discover that lessons have been learned, inner convinctions formed, and/or meaning found.

The next time you find yourself in the middle of a storm, can you imagine holding out your hand so God can grasp and hold it in his own?

Traumatic Events

Think back on your own life. Do you remember traumatic events from your childhood…or teenage years…or adulthood?

People often think of the big events. Yet seemingly smaller incidents can become a significant source of trauma as well. Like having best friends move away when you were a young child. Or perhaps there were times when you were bullied. Maybe you lost precious possessions such as a piece of jewelry, or had a favorite keepsake stolen from you at school. At the time, perhaps your emotions were strong or clouded your thinking. You might even have thought, “Why did God let this happen to me?”

Over time, however, we can learn from our experiences and reflect upon them. What lessons have we learned from the trauma or tragedy that we experienced? Have we become more compassionate? Have we devoted ourselves to a cause that is close to our hearts? Did you, for example, decide to become a doctor because you were once an accident-prone kid?

It may be that things happen for a reason, which, at first, we may not have understood. Maybe that is where the saying, “Time will tell,” comes from.

A Time for Everything

In life, there is death. Before death is life. Life begins at birth. Could it be that, after death there is eternal life?

There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens: a time to be born and a time to die.

Ecclesiastes 3:1,2a

Over the past few weeks, we have explored the question: Can sacredness be found in tragedy? As we move forward in life, may we be open-minded. May we love one another through all the facets of our lives, including the tragedies that come out of nowhere.

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Finding the Sacredness in Tragedy – Part 7: The Story of Bella Joy (Continued)

Image Credit: “Womb Paradise” by Alex Florschutz from sistersawake dot org

In Part 6, we learned a little about Miss Bella and her infant son who was born with a rare disease. This tragic circumstance was so unepected. No one saw it coming. We continue this story.

It’s Not Fair

After the initial shock wore off, Miss Bella may have thought:

It’s not fair to the baby.
It’s not fair to (us) the parents.
It’s not fair to (our other child) the sibling.
Life expectancy is short with this rare disease.

Why God? Why me? 

Miss Bella felt so alone after her baby’s birth. (YouTube Video*)

After all, how would we feel if we were told our baby has a rare disease? Six months later, she put on a courageous face and filmed a YouTube video. Why? Because she didn’t want others to feel alone like her.

The Story of Bella Joy shows how an apparently uneventful pregnancy can yield a calamitous life-changing outcome. Miss Bella navigated through an unexpected situation as best she could. Then, this strong momma shared her experience with the world to give others hope and encouragement. Instead of dwelling on the negative, she found the strength to overcome her circumstances.

And, more importantly, to serve others.

Why is service so important?

Serving others reflects God’s love and fulfills the Biblical commandment that we love one another. If we focus on love and serving others, even in the midst of evil or heartbreak, that is where we find the sacred. It does not nullify – or remove – evil, tragedy, and human suffering. Rather it is precisely here, in the midst of catastrophe, that the sacred becomes manifest. This is where God is present – whether we see and sense him, or not. And this is why, even in the most terrible circumstances, people are able to find hope, offer love, and serve one another.

The next post will explore the cycle of life in the context of there being a time for everything. We will then wrap this series up on finding the sacredness in tragedy.

*YouTube dot come/watch?v=3Jc2w2eAhMc&t=21s

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Finding the Sacredness in Tragedy – Part 6: The Story of Bella Joy

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Parts 1-5 focused on God’s love, compassion, and mercy, even amid tragedy. 

Today, we will again ponder the many questions in life, starting with birth.

For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb.

Psalm 139:13

The Story of Bella Joy

Bella Joy had an uneventful pregnancy. There was nothing out of the ordinary at any point in time during her pregnancy. All the precautionary prenatal care guidelines were followed.  She even passed all the recommended tests with flying colors, including genetic testing. Still, she and her family prayed for a healthy baby.

The Eventful Delivery

Miss Bella had a delivery that went sideways. The soon-to-be mom, for the second time, had scheduled a C-section on August 3. Yet, the baby had different plans. Unexpectedly, this young woman went into spontaneous labor on August 2.

Her medical team was on board and ready to prep her for the C-section when she arrived at the hospital. Not long after, Miss Bella gave birth to a baby boy. She was on edge until she heard the sweet sound of her newborn cry. Within seconds, he did. The wail seemed to signal a healthy baby. She breathed a sigh of relief.

She remembers her doctor saying calmly, “Your baby is having difficulty breathing.” But because Miss Bella had heard the infant cry, she didn’t overthink what the doctor had said. The doctor did not sound alarmed. Nothing seemed out of the ordinary. In fact, she remembered joking with the medical staff about there being a full moon that night. 

In the meantime, five nurses and doctors were working on her baby. She didn’t realize the commotion had been about her baby. She hadn’t a clue. However, when the OR staff person wheeled her to the nursery, she sensed something was off. When she saw her husband, she knew something was dreadfully wrong. 

At that moment, she learned that an infant can cry and still not be okay. “What could it be?” She asked herself. Her ultrasounds had been normal; and her pregnancy had been uneventful. She was not prepared for what was next.

Miss Bella’s son was born with Neonatal Marfan Syndrome, a rare genetic disease. She wanted answers.

“Where was God?” “Why did this have to happen?”

In the next post, we will keep searching for answers.

#Birth #Neonatal Marfan #Sacredness #WhereWasGod #Tragedy #LifeQuestions

A Christmas Miracle – Part 3

In the last post, we talked about Elizabeth’s backstory. How Elizabeth and Mary were cousins pregnant at the same time.

The Miracle of Birth – The Backstory of Mary

The story begins with Mary, a young girl, and her fiancé, Joseph. 

Mary and Joseph were engaged.

Mary was a virgin, until the Holy Spirit visited and impregnated her, causing confusion for the pair. Not to mention family and friends as well. Theoretically, Mary was still a virgin. 

*Artist: Stephen B. Whatley: Mary and The Holy Baby Jesus – St Stephen’s Day 2012 www.stephenbwhatley.com 

“Do not be afraid, Mary, for you have found favor with God. And behold, you will conceive in your womb and bear a son, and you shall call his name Jesus. He will be great and will be called the Son of the Most High.”

Angel Gabriel

Of course, Joseph was quite angry that his betrothed was “with child.” And he knew it wasn’t his! 

Anger led to the Angel.

In a dream, an Angel visited Joseph and told him to care for Mary.

“Joseph, son of David, do not fear to take Mary as your wife, for that which is conceived in her is from the Holy Spirit. She will bear a son, and you shall call his name Jesus, for he will save his people from their sins.”

Angel Gabriel

And so it was. Joseph and Mary were a couple, and they were destined to become parents. Parents of the long-awaited Messiah.

Pillars of Faith

Elizabeth and Mary were pillars of faith and obedience to God. And so were their respective partners, Zechariah and Joseph. Although Elizabeth was well beyond her childbearing years, it was miraculous for her to conceive. It was her pregnancy that served as a precursor to Mary’s virgin birth. Mary’s conception was even more miraculous because it symbolized the divine nature of the birth of the Christ-child that transcended all logical and biological thoughts and constructs.

Transcending All Logic

Faith transcends logic. To the logical mind, we must see proof before something can be believed. Yet, as people of faith, we don’t have to see evidence. We believe because we “feel” the Spirit of God within us. After all, we were made in the image of God. It sure is awesome to “feel” God’s presence. Yet, many of us feel dry. Unheard. Empty. We ask, “Where are you, God.” And the answer is silence.

Is it possible to have faith when you don’t “feel” God’s presence. Faith is a choice. Choosing to believe regardless of your feelings will reap rewards whether you “feel” them or not.

We Are The Clay

There hasn’t been a time in my life when God was absent. Of course, there were times when I thought he abandoned me. Like when I was bullied in junior high school. Or during my first marriage. Or during the divorce. But, I realized that God was walking me through the darkness. So I could come out the other side. Like a piece of fine pottery after being in the kiln’s heat.

Sometimes, we must surrender logic to fully feel the Holy Spirit in us. If you feel lost, perhaps try to talk to God? Ask God to reveal his image to you. To feel his presence. To walk with you on your life journey. God is the peace that passeth all understanding.

A Christmas Miracle – Part 4, will discuss the Miracle of Emotions During Pregnancy.

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*Used by permission